Orgasm Control and Male Chastity in a FLR

Orgasm denial and male chastity are two of the most powerful tools in a female led relationship (FLR).

Orgasm denial, like pegging redefines sexual roles in the bedroom. It puts the woman in charge of what happens and transforms what men often think is a privilege (or even a conquest), into a reward for pleasing his woman. At its simplest, the man must fully satisfy his woman before he is allowed to orgasm. As it becomes more involved, it could become a method of sexual re-education and sex role reversal. Making her man beg for release gives her control over his physical and innate sexuality- and of what defines him as a man.

Orgasm denial is often a prelude to male chastity and over the years there have been an evolution of male chastity devices to help women achieve this control. Male chastity devices give the woman complete control of her man’s sexual life and makes him dependent on her for it. There is no greater feeling of submission by a man to a woman than having his sex, his manhood, his masculinity and his virility tamed, locked up and put completely under a woman's control and whims. His manhood becomes hers to own. When she locks the chastity device and puts the key around her neck or on her bracelet, she owns him and he is completely at her command in the bedroom and beyond. It also can act as a secret (or not so secret) public display of her ownership.

There are many forms of male chastity devices (MCDs) available, but the ultimate aim is to lock away the man’s sex organ in a way that he cannot achieve orgasm on his own. They have many uses including orgasm control, punishment and/or humiliation. Some devices confine the penis so that the man cannot achieve erection, and some impale the urethra, something that can be both painful and extremely erotic.

There are various types of MCDs including 'chastity belts, penis 'cages' and urethral plugs. Below are pictures of 4 types of MCDs:

Figure 1 A male chastity belt that completely covers the man’s penis. Since there is no way for the man to pee, it is not really very practical except in the bedroom. Note that even though the front completely covers the penis, the back of the belt has a convenient hole; just the right size for dildo or butt plug? 

Figure 2  Two versions of a penis ‘cage’. These are the most popular type of MCD because they can be worn long term and allow the man to pee. These devices generally have three functions- to prevent the man from getting an erection, prevent him from using his penis in sex and, in some cases, also prevent his penis from being touched (to prevent masturbation or other forms of release). Most types have a lock- and the woman gets to keep the key after it is locked.


Figure 3  Two versions of a urethral ‘plug’. These are designed to be pushed down the penile urethra (the hole) and act both to prevent erections and prevent (or control) ejaculation. It is quite uncomfortable (even painful) for the man and generally more common for couples who enjoy BDSM. Unlike the cage, this is rarely used for long term chastity. 

 Figure 4  Two hybrid versions of the cage and plug. There are many versions of these including ones with ‘hollow plugs’ with a core that can be removed (for urination etc.). 

Many other devices exist but the 'cage' has become the most popular for couples in a FLR. Certainly the woman does not need a MCD to practice orgasm denial, but she might actually find that her submissive man enjoys (yes, enjoys!) being locked in a cage.

1 comment:

  1. Being locked in a chastity device is a very intense experience, but the way being kept sexually frustrated and denied for days (weeks) at a time has such an effect on my behavior and my focus on her and her needs.

    I admit I am more submissive, more compliant, less likely to hesitate, more willing to have boundaries erased, etc.