Corporal Punishment in the Female Led Relationship (FLR)

Corporal Punishment (CP) is defined by Wikipedia as a form of physical punishment that involves the deliberate infliction of pain as retribution for an offense, or for the purpose of disciplining or reforming a wrongdoer, or to deter attitudes or behavior deemed unacceptable. The term usually refers to methodically striking the offender with the open hand or with an implement, whether in judicial, domestic, or educational settings.

CP is similar in FLR, with the addition of a distinct sexual undercurrent and a healthy dose of humiliation. Imagine you are the man in the picture above. Naked and bent over in such a vulnerable and submissive position. Your erect cock, that betrays your arousal, is casually ignored by the woman who is about to punish your buttocks.

Now imagine you are the woman in the picture. You wield the power over the naked man. He is presenting himself to you in the most humiliating pose for a heterosexual man. You can play with his vulnerable scrotum, his buttocks and even his anus. And you can administer punishing strokes to his behind. You are in complete control.

In FLR, CP can be used as part of training the sub (male or female) to learn and accept his or her new role; disciplining him or her when caught doing something proscribed (like masturbation without permission), or even for entertainment (for the woman who have a little sadistic streak in her).
As Wikipedia explains there are several ‘implements’ used in FLR CP. There is plain old spanking with the bare hand, which often hurts the hand of the woman meting out the punishment. But for the woman who wants to spare her hand, there is a large range of implements of punishment that includes, rulers, wooden spoons, spatulas, paddles (ping pong or sorority paddles are some examples), canes (specially made for ‘caning’), riding crops, belts and even whips.

The methods of punishments can vary greatly as well, depending on the reason for the punishment and the woman’s whims. To be most effective, the sub should be naked (or at least with a bare ass), and made to get in a certain vulnerable and humiliating pose to receive his or her punishment. Introducing a ceremonial air helps the punishment emphasizes the authority of the woman carrying out the punishment, and increases the humiliation for the receiver.

Although there is a degree of BDSM in CP, it can often be a sensuous experience, or at least sexual. This is particularly true if sexual humiliation is added to the ceremony. In some cases, the sub may actually experience ‘sub space,’ a state that is similar in intensity to orgasm but is not necessarily sexual. This ‘sub space’ experience truly is a BDSM experience, but in a female led relationship can help solidify the woman’s domination over her sub. Having had this experience twice at the hand of a woman, I can say it is truly a mind blowing submissive experience.

For many women, the idea of inflicting pain on a man (or woman) is quite disagreeable. They might feel like this is either abusive or sadistic. Some might find it weird. But for the submissive man, it is actually something he craves. It is not necessarily the pain that he craves, but rather a hard to define sexual gratification that comes from submission and humiliation.

For those women who are new to FLR and may be hesitant to administer CP, it may be good to start slowly- maybe with playful spanking (when he is naked). You might be surprised how well he responds...


  1. I have had an aweful incident with corporal punishment...I was a stag sub trying too hard for a Domme to like me. We did not set up a safe word (I knew better). I thought she would respect me for really "taking it". Resulted in drawing blood on both my back n ass with no aftercare...just extreme, real humiliation... It will take a lot for me to get over that.

    1. I am sorry to hear about your experience.
      Don't allow it to hinder you. Use it to learn from.
      Communication is essential.
      Communication helps to build the trust which is necessary for interactions in the lifestyle or other areas of life.
      I recommend in your next adventure you set up safe words and have many conversations before you venture into a scene.
      Take it slow if that is what you need.
      But don't stop living your dream, life is too short to not go after what you need and desire.